Family Relationship is of Utmost Importance

LIFE'S ESSENCE - Katherine R. Oyson (The Freeman) - October 16, 2019 - 12:00am

A friend of mine told her son to settle the conflict they had within the family in a diplomatic way. She told him, “Be diplomatic in dealing with your sister. Maybe she has a problem, that’s why she acted in that manner. I want to keep the harmonious relationship in our family. Two or five years from now, this problem we are facing may not even matter anymore. Maybe by that time, I’ll no longer be around. I want you to have a good relationship with your other siblings.”

Sudipta Jana of the website Mom Junction states: “A strong family is all that you need to fight all odds in life. No matter how the day has been for you, no matter how people must have behaved with you, and  no matter how difficult the problems you have been facing, the smiling face of your spouse and children help you stay balanced... A family is important because our mental growth, wellbeing, and stability all depend on our family.”

“But that trust and support do not come easily,” Jana adds. “They are built over the years with careful nurturing.” And she shares ideas on how to build strong family relationship:

• Spend quality time together.  Share family stories or ask everyday simple things to encourage conversation, such as, “Hey, what did you do today in the school today?” Set aside a one-on-one chat time with everyone in the family to foster your bond.

• Maintain good communication with everyone in the family. When your children or spouse want to talk, respect their need and listen to them with attention. Give them enough time to express themselves properly…Encourage non-verbal communication through simple gestures like a warm kiss on the forehead every night before your children go to bed.  It can relay your love to them.

• Appreciate everyone in the family. Appreciate every member for performing their duties well. For example, praising and thanking a teenager for taking care of a younger sibling will make them feel important.

• Stay focused on the current problem. Do not bring up previous issues every time you have to address a problem. In that way, you can avoid unpleasantness and instead focus on the issue at hand.

• Work as a team. When your family works as a team, every member feels acknowledged for their contribution. Share household chores. Allow little children to participate in chores like picking up their toys or putting their shoes back.

• Establish clear family rules. Make family rules that clearly mention how every member should behave and treat each other. For example, “We talk respectfully with everyone in our family,” or “In our family, we help each other no matter what.”  Such small but clear rules can make the family stronger and peaceful.

• Teach children to forgive and make amends. Healthy families teach its members how to apologize, and forgive others when someone makes a mistake. It teaches children to take responsibility for their actions.


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