Raising our young
ESSENCE - Ligaya Rabago-Visaya (The Freeman) - January 31, 2019 - 12:00am

If there is one very challenging role that a parent is facing, is raising children. During early childhood is generally bearable considering they are still very dependent on us. However, the challenge is mounting especially when the child reaches adolescence. This is when they start to explore their world. Their peers have great influence and no matter how we monitor them, we seem to be helpless when times that they are with their peers.

We are just surprised when they come to us and express ideas that for sure they got from their peers. There are occasions that because we are concern of their welfare especially when they are with their friends, we keep our distance but still ready to catch when they fall. And this because we also don’t want them to feel unreasonably and overly protected.

Truly parenthood is both superb and terrible in the meantime. What people tell us make it wonderful. What makes it horrendous, in any case, isn't exactly as instinctively clear. Absolutely the undeniable things like tantrums, stubbornness, and lifestyle changes are difficult. Be that as it may, they aren't what I've discovered the most difficult. What make youngster raising the most difficult are in these occasions: They pursue their very own timetable. They discover dust interesting and need to play with it while you're endeavoring to motivate them to school. They would prefer not to rest or eat. They need to tune in to a similar melody, playing computer games and hooked to their gadgets. However living with it all of a sudden turns into an unforeseen test—less on the grounds that you should now work to oversee something that recently complied with your each impulse but since its new autonomy of psyche turns into a steady update that any control we think we have in life is an illusion.

We need to thoroughly take care of them. This is sometimes they move so slowly that impatience gets the best of us and we start putting on their shirts, their pants, and their shoes when they're superbly fit for doing it without anyone's help. But just as often, it’s because we want to spare them difficulty. Our longing to do as such, in any case, is unmistakably as confused as it is reasonable. How, all things considered, did we figure out how to prevail at testing undertakings aside from by getting the opportunity to come up short at them, by figuring out how to endure our very own disappointment so we could channel it into attempting once more?

We want to spare them pain. This one is what makes parenthood the most challenging for me. I simply want my son never to be hurt, either physically or emotionally. When he was born, I wasn't surprised by how much I loved him almost immediately, but I was by the strength of the urge I felt to protect him. Yet none of us are spared pain in life, and the sooner we learn how to survive it, the sooner we learn how to thrive in it. We must sometimes allow them to be hurt. Yet exactly when to hold back and when to leap in requires judgment, self-control, and constant vigilance.

Nothing in life is just magnificent or horrendous, notwithstanding having youngsters, something many tout, at any rate in the abstract, as the most awesome experience. However, our experiences never happen in abstract and considering them in the event that they do, anticipating them should be totally black or altogether white, will just yield implausible desires and hence incline us to endure something that, in the end, really is wonderful.

ligayarabago@yahoo.com

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