‘Pakikisama’

More often than not and especially (perhaps only) in the Philippines do we hear the word “pakikisama.” 

Based on my own research and if one really looks into the true meaning of the word, you will find that “pakikisama” is also the manner by which we relate, regard and in most part what we already know, it is how well we get along with others. 

I think Filipinos have somewhat mastered the art of getting along. Our culture relatively shows us that getting along with others is most important and although certainly it is important that we all work at getting along, I would like to focus on the two equal aspects of a common Filipino trait. 

“Pakikisama” involves what we call an interpersonal relationship simply because what we do affects others. The way we are able to relate with others encourages one to put their listening skills to good use while focusing on the important issues that come along the way. 

In order to relate it is important to recognize that we don’t need to express every disagreement we may have and in turn be able  to put ourselves in another person’s  shoes. 

On the other hand to regard is to be able to consider something that helps us to better assess or gauge. 

Just as we cordially send our warmest regards to someone, we are recognizing another’s worth.

In elevating this common Filipino trait to nation building, “pakikisama” enjoins us to relate and give proper regard that goes beyond the regular focus on getting along and networking.