Trusting, naive

ESSENCE - Ligaya Rabago-Visaya (The Freeman) - January 7, 2021 - 12:00am

As parents, we may feel that our children are in good hands, particularly in their most intimate or private moments, with their friends. But it is another point of interest to decide if they really are with their trusted mates. Since we know that often, when they do their own thing, they find ways to cover up certain situations that are upsetting to their parents.

We recognize that even without parental intervention or less, we want our children to learn from their mistakes. Yet, particularly when their safety and integrity are undermined, there are conditions that cannot be negotiated.

Netizens have given diverse responses to the recent killing of a flight attendant. And this is likely to happen because people have their own way of looking at the event. But there are things to bear in mind that are certain. For one, another life, a promising one for her family and friends, is put to waste. A life that brings in a possible contribution to society.

This was a party of celebration that turned into a horrible death. It is in the merrymaking that the motivation is given to do bad things that have skewed the presumed true intent of the event.

It is a fervent hope to bring an end to the creeping ideology of slaughter. We do not seek to establish a world in which killing is widespread and in which killing is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture.

And in the case of rape, we do not want to promote a culture that uses misogynistic language, the objectification of the bodies of women, and the glamorization of sexual abuse, creating an environment that disregards the rights and protection of women. Every woman is influenced by that culture. A single woman's rape is a humiliation, a terror, a restriction on all women. Many women and girls restrict their acts because of the existence of rape.

The majority of women and girls live in fear of rape. Men, generally, do not. This is how rape acts as an effective way of holding the entire female population in a subordinate role to the male population as a whole, even though many men do not rape and many women are never victims of rape.

From a feminist point of view, rape is a major error, one that is so frequently overlooked, mischaracterized and legitimized. However, feminists disagree on how the crime of rape is better understood, and on how both legally and socially rape can be combated.

One essential life lesson for our youth is the development of their discerning skills so that they can delineate real motives from false ones. Therefore, they also know when and how to put an end to something that threatens human dignity.

Some claim victims are too trusting, too naive. And other victims believe like it is all their fault, too. Let's help them acknowledge the obvious: for poor judgment, rape is not a punishment.

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