Straight from the heart or head?
We often hear people saying “what we say is coming from the heart”. This is so as we want the receiver of the message to know what we really mean and that what it is being said is a product of a truthful feeling. We are dead serious in doing or delivering in actuality what we have said or promised. It is when we use our emotions that we are so affected and sincere about what we say.
That is why some would advise us to follow our hearts more than our head while others tell us to follow our head. And there’s nothing wrong which one is over than the other, or the absence of the other.
But what makes it misguided is when we tend not to credit another area of which is equally important. And this is the reason dictated by rational thinking. Especially when we tend to give more credit to what we feel and not on what would be the impact of such actions or remarks on others. And yes, it is the consequence and its level that determines such impact we have created once a word is uttered or a decision is made.
In a highly-civilized society where social interactions have remarkably esteemed conventions, outburst of emotions hurting others cannot just be permitted or tolerated. A few days ago a basketball brawl took place and the world became the witness. It is not the first in a physically demanding sport, but history would tell us that such display of outburst is and can never be tolerated and that there are consequences in the end. Basketball, being regarded as a sport that has the power to unite, would create a divide of views and opinions when two sporting nations collide.
On the other hand, the world is supposed to witness a showcase of discipline. Such tremendous amount of control of emotion is necessary, not only in sports but to practically all types of human undertakings. It speaks of how we were brought up and influenced by the kind of environment we are in.
Such control of emotion is a product of one’s experience and so is the ability to anticipate possible repercussions of such actions. And although there are lessons to be learned after each action, positive or otherwise, it is one’s ability not to repeat what has been committed, especially when it brought about negative impact. For after all, it is always regret that comes after each off-beam move.
When we are emotional or upset, we have disordered pattern, and many important higher human pursuits such as decision-making will be affected. The distorted signals that occur when we are feeling angry, upset, unhappy, or any negative emotion impair our cognitive functioning and access to intuition.
Though there is no crystal ball in life that will tell us what our future will be, for simple decisions, we follow our heart. However, for big decisions, it is always important to be more prudent and use our head wisely. It’s best to accept with a happy heart whatever the outcome because giving our best comes easy.
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