How to bewitch a man?

How does a woman get a man even if he is with another? How does another woman manage to keep her partner or husband on his toes, still totally in love with her after a lifetime? Why does a man never forget a specific kind of woman in his past, such that memories of her continue to haunt him through time and other relationships? "Kinulam ’yan!" (He was bewitched) as some would suggest. "She has used magic," others would say. I don’t think that is too far from the truth. Some women have learned the art of bewitching men.

The wise woman knows how to hold her man. And hold his attention and imagination, keep him wanting to continue being by her side, sharing time and moments, sharing growth. The wise woman keeps her man for as long as she likes. I say that the wise woman has discovered magic in the guise of her own personal power which she wields and uses constructively to keep herself happy.

Magic is a word of the occult, or of millennial past when it was associated with sorcery, spells, and witches. Today, we know better; with the advent of quantum physics that defines that all of the universe and the cosmos is energy, the word "magic" can be changed to "constructive (or destructive) use of energy." The magician of yore used universal energy coupled with his own intent to secure what he wanted. The black magicians and witches misused these energies to control or destroy others and consequently themselves. The good magician or white witch could have been saints whose energy of prayers transformed themselves, other people and the world constructively. They brought forth powerful energies of faith and love to create miracles.

Here’s a great secret. You can be a plain Jane and slowly transform yourself into a more exciting Jane, vitally alive, alluring and magnetic. I won’t speak about the tricks of the trade like adornment, scents, fashion and style, beauty tips for these are given elements that must be maximized in trying to bewitch your man. Rather, I would like to focus on the intangible: that of personal power that makes use of magnetic energy.

The trick is conscious cultivation of this personal power by making yourself more aware of the energy field that surrounds your body. During normal times, this energy field just stays a couple of inches all around your body. It finds its roots in the area of your navel, in the upper part of your stomach. This area is the storage of your energy–energy that you can expand as far as you would like. So, the first step is knowing that you have this energy field. A concrete step in feeling this energy is by rubbing your two hands together then, with palms facing each other, feel what goes on in the space between them. You will feel energy currents that create electric static between your palms. This is the very energy that must be cultivated for your personal power to grow.

The second step is learning how to play with, and control this energy field. Beginners practice sessions mean sitting in meditation and closing your eyes or just lying down. Then just feel the energy moving inside and around you. Soon, you can help it move by visualizing its movements or "thinking" it towards where you want the energy to move. Intermediate practice sessions mean that as you go through your daily activities, you can feel this energy moving around you and are very conscious of it, even if you are very active.

Now, let’s go for the real practice sessions with an outside object: your partner! You can bring the energy up to your eyes, energizing the focus of the glance you give him. A simple glance, if loaded with this energy, can mean a million things–from an invitation, a suggestion, a connection–even a story of your inner soul.

Or you can bring this energy to the tips of your fingers, loading them as you touch him, caress him. Or you can bring this energy to your heart area and feel all your emotions expand in attraction and love. Best, you can energize your whole energy field, strengthening and expanding it by visualizing that it encompasses your lover like a bubble; or that you tingle with magnetic delight when your bodies touch.

Awakening your personal power and magnetism is to visualize yourself as a strong, dynamic and fearless woman. This means that all blobs, negative emotions, insecurities, regrets, fears and anger must be faced–and because they are blobs, cleansed out of your system. Personal power can only be developed consciously. I repeat, consciously. It needs time and practice and a constant resolve never to be lazy or back step the process… for it is the very process of growth. There is nothing that will bewitch your man more than you becoming a wise woman who knows how to keep him happy and the center of your world (or so he should think!) while keeping yourself happy and whole.

Like the genie that is released from the bottle, personal power must be released from the inner part of you. Believe me, this power is what bewitching magic is all about… or my name wouldn’t be Jeannie!

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E-mail me at: jej1@easycall.com.ph