WATCH: Here's why 'prince charming' does not exist

MANILA, Philippines – Most people spend the rest of their lives looking for “the perfect guy” – the prince charming who will spoil them like a princess, the Romeo who will say all the romantic lines and the Adonis who will sweep them off their feet. But does he really exist?

Sarah Swafford, the founder of Emotional Virtue Ministries and author of a book titled Emotional Virtue: A Guide to Drama-Free Relationships argues that while there is absolutely nothing wrong with visualizing an ideal kind of love, letting the whole concept of it rule you, is something that people should not let happen.

According to Sarah, love today is built around a false concept.

“A lot of people often think to themselves that ‘well, once I find this perfect guy or girl, they’re going to complete me, and they will be anything I will ever need.’ The ideal kind of love is that this person’s going to be perfect, and that you are not going to have any other problems or sorrows, but that’s just not how it is,” she says.

People’s idea of love revolves around the scenes that we see on movies and lines that we read on the book, which is why people end up feeling unhappy and not contented about their relationships.

“There was a time when I had the idea of what I wanted, and I really was disappointed that men would not be that. When I was dating a guy, I would always tell myself, ‘why are you not like this, this and that?’ I would just get so emotionally wrapped up on things that I almost can’t see reality anymore,” she recalls.

On her book, Sarah insists that emotions exist for a reason. And although emotions are good, letting them take control over your decisions in life will keep you away from the reality. The key to a successful relationship she says is finding the middle ground between reality and emotions through having Emotional Virtue – having the right thoughts will lead you to the right actions.

“Nowadays, a lot of us have been raised with maybe not the best idea of what exactly love is. 21st century relationship is way different with our parents’ form of dating, how relationships started back in the old days. How do we have an awesome relationship in the midst of all of these? That’s what Emotional Virtue is all about.”

Here’s Sarah’s message for women today who are constantly looking for the ideal kind of love:

Philstar.com/Efigenio Toledo IV