ADVICE: Is a 7-year age gap immoral?

‘Ano ba ang problema kung mas bata siya sa ‘yo?’

I’ve been colleagues with this guy for more than five years. We’re both single now. But he’s seven years younger, and I’m beginning to have feelings for him. Yikes. Yung tipong nagising na lang ako isang araw at na-realize na nahulog na ko sa kanya. Pak ganern. Probably because he started being nicer to me. Nakakausap ko na rin siya nang matino. Dati kasi lagi lang niya ako niloloko at inaasar. I know that he has a crush on me but he knew that I didn’t like younger men. We actually have a love team at work, and my other colleagues have always been rooting for us, to my dismay. I used to despise their jokes but nowadays it doesn’t bother me anymore. I want to rid myself of those feelings though because it goes against my morals and values. But how? I want everything to go back to normal again. Napapa-isip na tuloy akong magresign as it might affect my work. Huhuhu, what to do?

XOXO,

Sugar Cougar

Dear Sugar Cougar,

Ano ba ang problema kung mas bata siya sa ‘yo? Pareho naman kayong single. I’m sure you’re not 21 and him, 14. May trabaho naman siya. You like him and he likes you. Nagpapabili ba siya ng One Direction merchandise sa’yo? Bawal lumabas kapag school night? O nagpaalam na sasama sa camping ng Boy Scout? Joke lang, I’m sure Eagle Scout na siya.

I understand there are a lot of factors to consider. You being older may mean being more “successful” in your career and it may not always sit well with the guy, or even you. Your maturity levels may not always be at par with each other.  Your interests might be poles apart. Pwede kang mapagkamalang tita niya kapag magkasama kayo. Kaya lagi kang mag-aayos. Para mukha kang tita niya na nakaayos. Don’t worry, when you’re 97 and he’s 90, the age gap won’t be so obvious anymore. Yay.

Baka naman hindi talaga going against your morals and values ang pagkakagusto mo sa kanya because I do not see anything immoral here. It’s just that it goes against what you’ve always thought you liked and didn’t like in a guy. But aren’t surprises some of the best things in life, bukod sa cake?

Why don’t you give it a try? If it doesn’t work out, eh ‘di hindi. Sulat ka ulit sa ‘kin at sisihin ako. However, if you really feel uncomfortable about it, don’t force yourself.  I’m only suggesting that you be open to the possibility. Give it a few dates. Kapag nagpahatid pa siya sa ‘yo pauwi, sabihin mo sa kanya, next time na magkita kayo, mag-mano siya sa tita niya, ha?

XOXO,

Tita Witty