Toxic behaviors that will kill your soul
A young acquaintance confessed that she hates nagging. She said, “Nagging is a toxic behavior. It drives you nuts”. She specifically mentioned her mother. She said, “My mom is a nagger. Even on small things, she nags. It’s so irritating. It ruins my day. I wish she would stop doing that. It sometimes drives me out of our house. It’s no wonder my father comes home late and prefer to stay longer in the office.”
Heather Matthews of www.stevensitchiuson.com, exclaims, “Nobody is perfect. As much as we strive to live a pure and simple life, sometimes we slip and let toxicity into our lives.”
Matthews points out the following toxic behaviors:
Gossiping. We all do it. We talk about the girl next door or the new guy that just started working there. We talk about how the Browns split up. And “Did you hear that they separated?” Did you know that when we talk about people it shows an insecurity or jealousy in us? Have a think about that for a moment.
Lying. Who are you lying to and why? It doesn’t make sense to do this and I still don’t understand why so many people still lie.
Worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. Why would you waste your time and energy worrying about something that hasn’t even happened? Worry is a natural emotion/feeling. It’s up to you to control it and stop it in its tracks before it spirals out of control. That’s when the stress kicks in and our blood pressure rises. No need for all of this now? Is there?
Jealousy. With every turn, someone, somewhere has something better or nicer than we do, our first reaction is to be jealous. There is no need to be jealous. We all have something special, unique and beautiful inside of us. We also have something that someone else wished they had. Just be grateful for who you are and what you have. You are perfect and blessed exactly the way you are. Embrace it.
You’ve already lived in the past. Oh, how we love to hang on to what happened 5, 10 or 25 years ago. We still go on and on about it to whoever will listen. Why shouldn’t we? Who we are today is the result of the way we choose to handle the past. Be done with it. No one wants to hear it. Just be happy and joyful, that’s what other people want to hear.
I love me. Watch how you talk. Make sure your self-talk is loving, kind, compassionate, gentle caring, and supportive. Talking bad about yourself is probably the worst thing you can do. Treat yourself in a totally loving and positive manner.
Woe is me. Always the victim never the victor. Sad things happening to you and you can’t wait to tell the next person you see. The more you talk about it, the more depressed you get, and the more terrible things keep happening to you. Stop whining. There comes a point where no one will want to be around you.
Reminder: Next time you catch yourself doing any of these, stop it immediately. Turn it around and tell yourself that your soul is beautiful and deserves only loving, kind and caring thought.
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