Self-respect is a power you give to yourself

Jack Canfield, et al  in the book, “Chicken Soup for the Recovering Soul,” said that "Self-respect is not a matter of what you are doing in your life, rather how you are doing it.  It requires that you bring quality and virtue into each action, whatever that action may be. Sometimes you must burrow to find the qualities in your nature that have gone underground and then coax them to the surface.  Stopping for a moment and being silent can bring the steadiness you need for this task.”

There are times when some people feel that they are not respected. For me, I believe that we have to respect ourselves first before others can respect us by doing things, or act, or behave in an appropriate manner. If we act in a manner that is inappropriate, we cannot expect people to respect us.

A question might be raised. "Why is self-respect important?” The “Scholar Advisory website,” cites  its  importance:

The primary reason that people need self-respect is that without it, they will be unhappy  and not take care of themselves. Without self-respect many people will fail to realize what they want and need in life. Because of these, they’ll go through life miserable. They are more likely to take risk with their health and the law. Because they don’t think that their  life is worth it.

The second important reason is that people need self-respect so that other people can respect you. However, respect is a two way street. If you don’t treat others with respect they deserve, you will not also be respected.

How can one gain self-respect? The “livebold&bloom website” points out the following ways:

Determine your values. Your actions must be guided by your values and your values must reflect your authentic self. These values are the foundation of every decision and action in your life. Act against your values and you’ll lose respect for yourself.

Set boundaries to empower yourself. How can boundaries be set?  The “Info Self Development website” cites the following ways:

Be less open and receptive. If you are around a rude or intrusive person, and feel discomfort, then withdraw your energy away from the situation by changing your posture, eye contact, and tone of voice. Appear less receptive, less warmth, and less open.

Put yourself first. Giving yourself permission to put yourself first has nothing to do with being selfish. Self love is the basis of any relationship because if you don’t love yourself, how are you going to love anyone? Prioritize your self- care by staying true to your feelings and honoring them.

Be direct and assertive. People are not mind readers. So it is important to confidently and respectfully communicate what crosses you and what you won’t tolerate. There’s nothing wrong  with being frank. Just say your piece in a polite way.